A good friend, a true friend, is endlessly supportive, but will also call you out on your bulls**t.
Thank goodness I’ve got a few of those, the ones who are there to catch me when I fall, and who will listen to me whine—up to a point—and then, even more importantly, say, “Okay, now let’s talk about what’s good in your life.”
When I decide to re-visit some old grievance dealt me months or years ago, they’ll interrupt with, “Really? We’re going to go down that road again? Heard it all before. Bored, now.”
If you don’t have at least one of those people in your life, then you need to go out and get one as soon as possible.
These are the individuals who’ve seen you at your best and at your worst, and they know the real you lies somewhere in between.
Their influence makes you want to be a better person. You want to shine in their eyes. Now, that’s somebody special.
That’s the kind of a friend I am striving to become: supportive, yet willing to be honest when I think that’s what someone important to me needs most. I’m not there yet… But I have a few great teachers.